My parents separated when I was five years old. During their split, I always hoped and prayed they would reunite, but when the divorce was final it was time to move on. After my mom lost her battle with cancer and my dad moved back home to take care of me and my siblings it was a huge adjustment.

I can remember a time when I would be happy to sit in the living room with my dad watching Walker Texas Ranger or Law and Order with little conversation. Quality time is my primary love language, and that was our version of it.

Although he’s been a father for more than two decades, his parenting skills and our relationship still get better with time. While transitioning into new stages of our lives it’s refreshing and exciting to see and experience that growth. I recently talked to my dad on the phone for almost an hour; after the call, I just sat with a smile thinking about the days I never thought that would be possible.

Every time I hear Chris Tomlin’s “Good, Good Father” come through my speakers it touches my spirit and often leaves me in tears. When I think about how blessed I am to have the perfect father in heaven and an awesome one with me on earth, my heart is filled with gratitude. The father I have today is the best one I’ve ever had, and that gives me hope that spreads into many other areas of my life. In honor of Father’s Day, I think it’s only fitting to share some of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned from my dad throughout the last 25 years of my life. Starting with the fact that, there’s always room for growth and improvement, which is something I learned through many experiences.

• “If you don’t spend all of your money you’ll never be broke. Always save something!”

• Don’t lend what you can’t afford to lose.

• “Good advice is valuable, but it does you no good if you don’t listen to it.”

• Help is always a possibility for those who help themselves.

• Gratitude goes a long way.

• Work for what you want.

• Hard work rewards itself.

What are some valuable lessons you’ve learned from your dad or father figure, and how are you celebrating him this Father’s Day? Share below.

XX,

Jasmine C. Tate