If you’ve ever sang along to a song written or performed by a black artist
If you’ve ever celebrated a touchdown, putt, shot, home run or score from a black athlete
If you’ve ever quoted words from a black poet, speaker or author
If you’ve ever felt feelings for a member of the black community you know that
Black Lives Matter.
Say it, write it, post it or don’t, but know that it is true.
You saying it doesn’t make it more true.
You not saying it doesn’t make it less true.
It is the truth and although the words coming from your mouth or being displayed on your page or story or paper doesn’t make it more or less true here’s what it does…
It tells people like me that you see me, you hear me, you acknowledge my pain and that of my community and ancestors.
It amplifies the truth.
It makes a declaration that you believe the truth.
For perspective
I lost my mom 15 years ago and every time I post about her I hesitate for fear of those on the other side of the message thinking or saying I should get over it or “Here she goes again.” Even in that I allow myself to post anyway and although it doesn’t take a way the pain it gives me an outlet to release some of it.
In her memory I participate in Relay for Life events every year and when I post very few people donate or join me at the events, but when I see likes, comments, DMs or texts and calls, it is comforting. To all that have posted “Thank you.” While your posts alone doesn’t end police brutality, bring justice to those who have lost their lives senselessly, or take away anyone’s pain, they are a symbol and showcase of your support.
When I participate in Relay for Life events, I walk to celebrate, remember and fight back for my mom and other cancer survivors, patients and those who have lost their lives to the disease. The protests that are happening now are equivalent to those Relay for Life events or the last 5K, run or walk you participated in for a cause you’re passionate about. I relay to fight against cancer, the protests are to fight against a different type of cancer in our society- racism.
Because my father has dedicated his life post-military to protecting and serving the community where I grew up and call home, I know many awesome police officers. I also know that I can be pro-cop and anti-police brutality and systems that protect “bad cops” when they abuse their power and neglect their responsibility to protect and serve at the same time. You can too.
For understanding and action
As a black woman with many non-black friends, classmates and colleagues, I’ve received several texts, calls and messages that have given me mixed feelings. Many have left me disappointed and hurt by perceived intentions and others comforted me and gave me a sense of alliance. For those who don’t know what to say a simple “I’m thinking of you.” I’m praying for you.” or I support you.” works.
Also here are some things that can be said in place of “I don’t understand…” or “I will never understand…”
I understand that people are hurting because of the injustice caused by the officers that took George Floyd’s life.
I understand that George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery and Breonna Taylor are among many that have lost their lives unjustly.
I understand that there are layers to the anger and trauma people are feeling.
I understand that people in the black community have felt this pain repeatedly for many years.
I understand that anger and frustration causes people to react and respond in different ways.
I understand that racism still exists in America.
I understand that my privilege has allowed me to be protected or blinded by existing racism and injustice in America.
I understand that I need to get a better understanding of what it’s like to be black in America.
I understand that systems of racism in America are complex.
I understand that there is more that I can do to support the black community.
I understand that saying that black lives matter doesn’t mean that all lives don’t matter.
I understand that black lives must matter for all lives to matter.
I understand that “black lives matter” is not a trend.
I understand that even when the movement is no longer in the spotlight, racism will still exist.
I understand that silence can be harmful.
For those who want to know how they can help, the answer is research and action. There are ample blogs and media outlets sharing ways to get educated and involved beyond words and social media posts. Here are some sites and Instagram accounts to reference.
Organizations
Publications with resource roundups
Black News & Publications
For Consideration
For those who have not posted, connected or have posted about riots and looting in isolation from solidarity, just know your black friends, classmates, colleagues, associates notice and may question if you are racist, agree with the murder, disagree with protesting or a host of other things. Think about how they think of you as you remain silent, especially if you are active on social media.
If you have a problem saying “Black Lives Matter.” you should acknowledge the truth in that, why it is and what could and should happen as a result.
Your knowledge of your ability and willingness to proclaim that black lives matter comes with responsibility. How will you respond to it?
These are my thoughts in written word from my experiences, and I hope something I’ve said makes sense to you. Please connect with me if you have a response, question(s) or feedback.
Virtual Hugs & Handshakes,
Jasmine C. Tate